How To Build Support Networks

February 06, 2019

How To Build Support Network

We've all been there, starting out on our new health journey with high-hopes, passion, and enthusiasm. We set ourselves an aspirational goal and believe that "This Time" we'll turn our dreams into reality. However, no sooner has the journey begun, our motivation starts to drop. 

Unfortunately, this is something that happens to all of us, regardless of the goal that we have set ourselves. Change can be difficult, and creating new habits can be even harder!

Which is why I’m a firm believer in surrounding yourself with people that will help you achieve your goals. This is also known as "the power of the peer group."

If you want to go from where you are now to where you want to be, then seeking out support from those that surround you could have a massive impact on your results. The more support you have, the higher your chances of success!


Finding Your Network:

You can have multiple different people from multiple different areas of your life that’s all that will all aid in your accomplishments. However, you have to be aware of the people in your life let’s go and have a negative impact on you achieving your goals.

We all know these type of people:

– Social vampires
– The people who are likely to put you off
– The people who will put you down
– The people who are jealous of your new goals and ambitions
– The people who thrive when times are hard
– The people who laugh when you quit

So not only do we want to seek out our life cheerleaders we also want to remove ourselves from the from the destructive comments and feedback of the haters of a hiatus. It might go without saying, but you are looking to gain support from cheerleaders, not haters.

A cheerleader is someone that will be rooting for you to succeed!

– They will challenge and inspire you.
– They will pick you up when you’re feeling down.
– They will encourage you to keep going when you want to quit.

And most importantly, they will believe in you!


Haters will love to see you fail.

 - They don't care if you succeed or not.
 - They will rejoice whenever you stumble.
 - They will talk about you behind your back.

And they will secretly wish that you'll fail.


Building Your Support Network:

Follow these steps, and you’ll soon have a supportive network that will help you to smash every challenge that you set for yourself.

1. Habits:

When setting yourself a new challenge, it’s important to recognise the old habits that no longer serve you and the new empowering habits that you'll need to create.
Grab yourself a piece of paper and a pen. Draw a line down the centre of the page and in the left-hand column write down all of the old habits that you no longer desire. In the right-hand column write down all of the new empowering habits that will help you succeed.

Example's in the left column:

– I want to stop snacking on biscuits in the evening.

– I want to stop drinking alcohol on the weekdays.

– I want to stop eating chocolates during working hours.


Example's in the right column:

– I want to wake up at 6 AM

– I want to work out for 30 minutes every morning.

– I want to eat healthy snacks during working hours.


2. Seek Support:

Once you have your list, it's important to find people that will help you to either 'Create' or 'Break' your habits.


Example 1: 

– "I want to wake up at 6 AM."

Find someone that will do any of the following:

 - Push you out of bed once your alarm goes off (Partner).
 - Text/call you at 6 am to make sure you're up (Friend).
 - Check your diary once per week. 

You could even use a social media accountability group and post 'I'M AWAKE' at 6am each day so that all of the group members can hold you accountable.


Example 2: 

– "I want to quit snacking on chocolate’s while at work." 

Seek out the support of someone at your place of work who is going to help you avoid the temptation of saying "YES" to the chocolate that's passed around the office. 

One by one, work through each of the habits on your list and find an accountability partner who is most likely to help you succeed within each specific area.

NOTE: You can have the same person helping you across multiple different habits, or you can have a different individual for each separate habit. 

The choice is yours.


3. Sharing Is Caring:

I'm sure you'll agree. It makes no sense to have a support network, and then never use them!

It’s surprisingly common for people to feel embarrassed or ashamed of the fact that they are finding the journey difficult. This embarrassment prevents them from opening up and sharing their progress with the people around them.

However, this is the reason for a support network in the first place. In times of struggle, you have someone who will help you get back on track. And it’s for this reason that is so important that you find people whom you trust and are willing to help you succeed without judgment or ridicule. The last thing that you want is to feel that your support network will laugh at your progress.  

Your support network should be your cheerleaders. People that will lend an empathetic ear and help you up when you're feeling down.  Sometimes, a single phrase from your support network can be all it takes to re-ignite the fire that you had at the beginning of your journey.  


Follow these steps:

1. Keep your support network up-to-date with your progress. 

2. Whenever you face a challenge (physically or mentally) share the struggles with your support network.

3. Listen to their words of encouragement from your support network.

Find inspiration in their words and uses this to push you through the next phase of your journey. 




We all need cheerleaders in our lives, people who will encourage us and hold us accountable for achieving our goals.

Cheerleaders are the people who will rally around you and keep you moving forward when all you want to do is quit. These are the people who will pick you up when you’re feeling down and push you hard when you can handle it. 

Create your support network from the people around you; Partner, Children, Friends, Family, Co-workers or Associates.


You don’t have to work through it alone - Together we are stronger! 


👉🏽 For more help on building supportive relationships and motivation, check out our With Self Love courses available inside our Fitness, Food & Mindset Membership for a free trial! 👈🏽


Jeff 🙂

High-Performance Coach and Author

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