I read this late last night and honestly it really upset me, angered me and frustrated me...
A British mother suffered THREE heart attacks before dying after a 'bottom lift' at a cosmetic surgery clinic because she was paranoid about her appearance after having her 3 children - Daily Mail - read more Firstly, my hugest sympathies go out to her poor family, her children and friends as it’s an awful tragedy. My frustration is that these sort of operations are becoming the norm. We are all free to do what we want to our bodies, of course. But what are we striving for? Confidence? Looking like our role model? A never ending ladder towards perfection!?
So often that perfect Instagram shot is an illusion which may have been heavily edited anyway, so is simply unachievable and basically a cartoon body & face! Bum implants, lipo, boob jobs, lip fillers & botox are becoming as readily available as getting your nails done now - It's a 100's of million pound industry in the U.K! Although I’m not for or against surgery. What’s to blame for making us believe we need surgery as the go to solution? Why should our boobs defy gravity, why do I need a big bum, a thigh gap and bigger lips?
Some people want to blame Celebrities for this rise in plastic surgery. But for all of the young celebrities I know, they are a part of this new wave of low self esteem, that seems to be sweeping through us, not the culprits or the causes of it.
They (we) are feeling exactly the same pressure to be better, bigger somewhere, smaller somewhere else - more "perfect". They feel the constant pressure to look at their best, while they are often bullied and talked about like a commodity not a real person, in the some sections of the Press and in the regular vile comments gang on Social Media.
The public eye is a cruel, critical world where people feel entitled to discuss, judge and scrutinise an individual by attacking their appearance, weight, personality, intelligence, relationship, bank balance, talent etc. whilst being expected to be a role-model to to the younger generation. Unfortunately when you're in the public eye, you don't get a 6 week course on 'How to become a Role Model'.
‘What if I am over weight’, ‘Actually my boobs are quite small’, ‘Maybe I do have short fat legs covered in cellulite’, ‘Maybe I am talentless & stupid!’, ‘Yer my face is actually quite fat’... These are actually all things I have told myself from 19 years old after appearing on reality TV and having the public directly communicate with me on social media platforms, press articles and the delightful comments underneath them! I still want to know how Sharon from Devon knows from a photo of me walking out of a restaurant that I’m ‘dull, dumb & have no friends’! 🤦🏽♀️
I have many close friends for who, choosing plastic surgery was a huge decision. Months, even years of research into Surgeons, multiple consultations with them, constantly checking the testimonials for that surgery & surgeon until they were absolutely sure they were making the right decision. I have to say that the surgery made them happier, built their confidence and none of them would regret it.
I think there’s is a place for surgery and Botox for some people and I’m not even ruling out that I would have either or both one day. You would never believe the amount of offers I get for plastic surgery! 😱 But just suppose I did say yes to bigger boobs, because I'd been commented about in the media, and I felt that would shut people up. What then? Having calmed down a bit from when I started writing this. I really think that the massive issue is low self esteem, and I think all of us who do hold influence must work together to try to change this.
We have to build women who value themselves as more than their appearance! Only by coming from a place of valuing ourselves for who we are today, can we then make what are massive decisions like undertaking cosmetic surgery.