As the ancient Chinese proverb 😉 goes - haters gonna hate - but why do we sometimes face negativity from those around us who we feel are meant to be supporting and encouraging our fit and healthy lifestyles? 🤷🏼♀
At some point in our lives we will have to endure negativity from others 🥺 Whether that be from a bully when in school or work; critique from our family and friends regarding a specific life choice, or a multitude of other situations.
In some circumstances, you might expect or understand why not everybody around you are seeing your choices in a positive light, however, why is it that some of our nearest and dearest struggle to be supportive and optimistic about us introducing positive changes to our lifestyle to improve our overall health and well-being?
Lack of Understanding ❓
Some members of your inner circle just simply will not ''get it'. Their lack of support could simply be because they are creatures of habit who are so blissfully content with the way they live their lives that they therefore cannot understand why you would want to change yours, as your old way of living was the same as their's. Or it could be that they may not understand the overall health benefits of being active and nourishing your body in a positive way.
Beware of the green-eyed monster! Sometimes negativity can be self-frustration and jealousy presenting itself. Maybe the Negative Nancy in question has tried and failed at numerous attempts at improving their lifestyles, or struggles to see results as quickly as you are.
Same Old Story 📓
"I'm being serious, I'm going to stick with it this time and really make some changes to improve my lifestyle!" - how many times have the Negative Nancys in your life heard you say this? Maybe their negativity stems from you expecting to give up or not stick to your latest attempt at a change in your lifestyle. The best way of proving them wrong? Keep going! You won't always get it perfect and it won't always be easy, but it will be so worth it!
Where is Your Why? 🎯
More often than not, your nearest and dearest will simply love you just as you are and will not understand your big why for making changes to your lifestyle. They love you unconditionally as you are and genuinely don't want you to change anything about yourself.
So, what can we do about it?
It's Good to Talk 🗣
Talk to those who are being negative about your journey. Sit them down and tell them how you feel. Sometimes explaining why you are living the lifestyle you are choosing to is enough for them to step back, reflect and address the way they are supporting you with your endeavor.
Over Your Head 🙄
Acknowledge that the negativity is there and walk away from it. Pay it no attention and do not let it get inside your head and fester away. Only you give permission to others to make you feel a certain way.
Do not give permission to others to make you feel badly.
Don't Power Your Pump with Negativity ❌
Try to avoid fueling your workouts and goals with the negative chat the Nancys have been saying to you. This will lead you down a path of resentment for the healthy lifestyle you have chosen for yourself and you will start working out and eating right for all the wrong reasons.
Je ne comprends pas ⁉
As they say in France... je ne comprends pas (I do not understand). Sometimes there is absolutely no rhyme or reason as to why someone is not supportive of positive changes in your life. No matter how hard you try to translate their negative attitude towards you and your choices, you won't ever find the reason.
Don't beat yourself up for someone else's poor attitude. You know that you are making positive and healthy choices in your life, and the only person who really needs to care about this is you!
Remember, the only person you have complete control over is yourself. Continue making choices that you know are healthy and beneficial to you and reap the rewards of staying in your own lane and doing what is best for you.